Experience Masculine Power Through a Woman’s Eyes
September 22nd, 2006 by RyanRecently I came across a very unusual site that goes against many of the social norms called Taken In Hand. It's a website centered around the creation of relationships where the man takes the yang role both socially and sexually and the woman takes the yin role. The best part is that most of the creators and readers of the site are women. They explain the concept like this:
The Taken In Hand relationship is a consciously and consensually male-controlled sexually and socially exclusive monogamous relationship in which the man's power is real and for the purpose of creating a deeply connected, fully engaged relationship with a white-hot sexual connection. How the man expresses his dominance is an individual matter, but it is for the benefit of the relationship rather than being purely self-serving. The Taken In Hand man protects and cherishes the woman he leads. The Taken In Hand woman responds positively to her man's control.
As I browsed through the site I found an incredible post on masculine power written by a woman. It was so detailed and honest in describing the experience that it sent chills down my spine. Here are some excerpts from it:
…Very occasionally (about once a decade) I have found myself intensely affected by the mere presence of a particular man – so intensely affected that it has taken every ounce of self-control to appear unmoved.
The effect is extreme, both physically and psychologically. Primal. Overwhelming. It feels as though the man has godlike power – the power of a man; masculine power. You feel totally held by this power. The desire to be taken by the man is so intense that it is frightening. It can be difficult to breathe, or difficult to remain standing, let alone maintain a conversation. Bone dry mouth, zero appetite, heart all over the place, the fear that you might faint, shaking like a leaf, body positively screaming to be taken, a reckless willingness and primal desire to do whatever that man wants. The masculine power of the man – you feel that power with every fibre of your being. Melting in a white-hot inferno of desire, out of your senses, so far out of control psychologically that you can't even imagine being in control, totally in his power. You feel owned by the man, totally his, totally submissive.
Further in the post she describes the qualities that create masculine power:
The power to command, the quiet confidence to know for sure that he will prevail, and the daring to go for it and take what he wants. A commanding presence even if he doesn't know it. Faint heart never won fair lady. Fearlessness – or daring or courage even in the face of fear. He who dares, wins. Calm assurance. The absence of any hint of asking for a favour or appealing to pity. Directness. Activeness. Effectiveness. Not hiding behind a flirty exterior never daring to risk being direct.
She then describes men that don't have it:
…Men who have a victim mentality, or who appeal to pity, or who plead or beg for favours, or who grovel, or who are delicate, sensitive, mystical souls like Ayn Rand's “eminent young poet who was pale and slender… had a soft, sensitive mouth, and eyes hurt by the whole universe”, or who seem helpless, or who are endlessly sorry for themselves, or who have a bad temper that they can't control, or who otherwise appear weak, don't have it.
Read the full post here.
The most powerful aspect of this post is that it describes what its like to experience polarity and how it is automatic: a consequence of who you are rather than what you do.
Did the guy use any pick up lines or specific demonstrations of value? No way, he attracted by his presence, by who he was rather than what he does. No energy is expended at all yet attraction happens of its own…this is power in action.
The experience which she has tried to capture and bring to us with words is stunning. The fact that she implies the rarity of meeting a man like this may lead us to believe that meeting our counterpart may be a product of chance.
The way I see it now, is that it does not matter how rare or how far away the person who we are looking for may be, the thing that matters is are we energetically open and aligned to receive them?
By understanding the law of attraction, one will see that it is entirely up to one's own self whether this interaction will take place or not.
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October 16th, 2007 at 3:08 pm
Wow. another great article. I love this site.
November 14th, 2007 at 4:05 am
While I’m too stubborn and opinionated to submit to someone -completely-, I can say that I know the feeling this woman described. It’s the feeling of wanting to curl up at a man’s feet, looking up at him with your chin resting on his thigh.
February 14th, 2008 at 11:27 pm
Damn straight brother! That’s my goal too! Profound, lots of inner work, and I’m slowly getting there. Thank you that website and this post!
July 10th, 2008 at 11:27 pm
Hmm. I started writing that I know what she’s talking about, but then realized that the men that made me feel this way didn’t have the same power over my friends, and the men that made my friends feet go noodle, didn’t do anything to me. “My men” had the power over a lot of women, but not necessarily all of them - so are they that rare that I’ve never met one, or is it still a question of preference to some degree?
Sebastyne’s last blog post..My kind of Blogs are hard to find.
July 21st, 2008 at 2:29 pm
Hey Sebastyne,
Since writing this post a while ago, I’ve come to realize that this kind of interaction is as you implied, specific to each person’s own human design.
That is, someone who may have a personality that complements yours can easily spark a powerful energetic connection whereas with your friend that same person may not do anything.
As far as the rare part, it’s actually not very accurate to think in terms of rare or not. This implies there is some type of chance that you will come across your counter part. A more accurate way to look at it might be “am I currently aligned in my energy in such a way that I am open to meeting my soul counterpart or twin flame”.
As soon as you are truly ready for them, they will appear automatically. I’ve experienced this in one way already with finding my latest spiritual teacher (when the student is ready to teacher will appear), its the same idea.