Growing up in this culture, we often find ourselves taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. Its incredibly freeing to commit to letting other people have their stuff, while owning our own stuff. This of course, also takes into account honoring others as best we can. Honoring is all about allowing others to feel and be just the way they are, and using that as a starting point.

Also, many times us guys use girls that we arent really interested in as a crutch to hold our ego up when we are feeling insecure. I know I have allowed myself to stay in relationships that were like this and once I ended them, I freed up an enormous amount of energy and inner power.

Flirt, yeah that can be true, for me, saying no is really about choice more than control. Choice implies self responsibility, whereas sometimes control can sometimes involve others outside of ourself.

Tania, thanks for the feedback, you just summed up the whole article in just a few sentences

Justice, exactly! Yes, we overcome inertia by saying no, that allows us to initiate conscious choice in our life and definitely opens us up to new opportunity (that we can’t see until we make the choice).

Hey Dr. Post, thanks man! yeah I was wondering if anyone would catch that, yeah the yin yang relationship is very powerful when we start to look for it.

Hey Frank, well as I have come to understand it, alcohol doesn’t directly raise your level of consciousness, it simply removes all the anxiety and other negative emotions that are holding it down.

The only downside to alcohol and other drugs is that, since it has come from outside of us, there is a energy blackhole type effect afterwards where our energy gets drained by the drug. We experience this as a hangover, which can then lead to more use of the drug, then more hangover, leading to the cycle. I agree, once we get the inner stuff handled, there really is no point to drinking, since if we are already “drunk” on life, why even waste the money and the hangover.

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Thanks for sharing your story. You are by far my favorite blogger!

What I get from this is that YES is often easier (and less powerful) than NO because it moves in the same direction as inertia.

Here are a few of my flashes:
1. When I say NO to something, I’m always saying YES to something else.
2. Each person has a natural orientation toward either YES or NO depending on their type of personality or life strategy system. Bringing consciousness to this is always liberating.
3. We often settle for a lower form of the nourishment or freedom that we REALLY want. When we say no to “settling,” we open ourselves up to bigger possibilities of getting what we truly want.

Thanks Man!