Comments on: How to Give Advice to Others http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/ Practical Spiritual Wisdom for Men Sat, 22 Nov 2008 12:39:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Glen Rees BSc, ND: Your Spiritual nutrition reasearcher http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-4223 Glen Rees BSc, ND: Your Spiritual nutrition reasearcher Wed, 23 Jul 2008 02:33:30 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-4223 Nothing is difficult to say when it truly comes from your heart (mind) & NOT your head (mind). Too many men have learned (by example- often from their fathers/older male siblings) to live too much in the business-mode(head mind) of striving & acheiving 'cos thats how we men are measured. By the size of our business & NOT the size of our hearts or relationships. Women are much better at this & tend to live longer because of it. So sure, follow your head -fine, BUT be ruled by your heart to speak openly, freely, TRUE-LY. For you can BS your head, but you cannot BS your heart: For it knows. it just does! Warmly Glen F Rees Nothing is difficult to say when it truly comes from your heart (mind) & NOT your head (mind).
Too many men have learned (by example- often from their fathers/older male siblings) to live too much in the business-mode(head mind) of striving & acheiving ‘cos thats how we men are measured.
By the size of our business & NOT the size of our hearts or relationships.
Women are much better at this & tend to live longer because of it.
So sure, follow your head -fine, BUT be ruled by your heart to speak openly, freely, TRUE-LY.
For you can BS your head, but you cannot BS your heart: For it knows. it just does!

Warmly Glen F Rees

]]> By: Ryan http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-3514 Ryan Thu, 24 Apr 2008 22:50:28 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-3514 Jared, that's a great point. When a coach can accept himself, he will be much more allowing of other's mistakes which can lead to better guidance. Asia (or Jared I should say), it's definitely a challenge. A way that you can get the same benefit of a professional is to simply tell the other person a new concept that you learned from x professional and indirectly give them the advice. That's an easy way to do it. Jared, that’s a great point. When a coach can accept himself, he will be much more allowing of other’s mistakes which can lead to better guidance.

Asia (or Jared I should say), it’s definitely a challenge. A way that you can get the same benefit of a professional is to simply tell the other person a new concept that you learned from x professional and indirectly give them the advice. That’s an easy way to do it.

]]> By: Asia'h Epperson http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-3383 Asia'h Epperson Sat, 05 Apr 2008 03:05:53 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-3383 giving advice to loved ones is seldom the easiest thing to do in life..sometimes, it is easier to via a professional with credibility. even though the advice could be the same... giving advice to loved ones is seldom the easiest thing to do in life..sometimes, it is easier to via a professional with credibility. even though the advice could be the same…

]]> By: The 4 Stages of Personal Development | Yang Town http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-2487 The 4 Stages of Personal Development | Yang Town Thu, 21 Feb 2008 01:15:38 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-2487 [...] Eben Pagen recommends that as soon as you learn something, teach it to someone else.  You will be FAR more likely to remember it plus you get the goodwill associated with helping others (just remember how to give advice). [...] [...] Eben Pagen recommends that as soon as you learn something, teach it to someone else.  You will be FAR more likely to remember it plus you get the goodwill associated with helping others (just remember how to give advice). [...]

]]> By: Jared http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-2436 Jared Sun, 17 Feb 2008 15:53:13 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-2436 A good post. I recently reflected and realized that when I mentored my subordinates, I was advising them on my own shortcomings. I had failed to take into considerations their strengths and weakness during my coaching. Someone once told me "A good coach is someone who is able to accept himself first." A good post. I recently reflected and realized that when I mentored my subordinates, I was advising them on my own shortcomings. I had failed to take into considerations their strengths and weakness during my coaching.

Someone once told me “A good coach is someone who is able to accept himself first.”

]]> By: Ryan http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-2240 Ryan Wed, 06 Feb 2008 06:07:32 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-2240 Thanks Ariel, that means a lot, looking forward to seeing your new blog. Alex, yeah it's very intuitive to tell someone what to do, even though I became aware of this, I still need to practice compassion constantly until I live it automatically. Lauxa, I appreciate the kind words on the design :) Hey Steve, glad you stopped by. Whatup tuplad, good to have ya back. Listening is a great skill to have, it really puts a lot of the power back into your hands. Stefan, it's good to hear you liked it. Bart, Yes I had some very similar experiences giving people 'help.' With guys like us who are always out to learn and grow, it's very easy to think that others are the same way. As for how to handle other people when they are giving you advice with that negative energy, I usually try to interrupt their state or pattern first, then have a conversation. I focus on maintaining my state, then helping them realize the state they are bringing to the conversation, (in a tone that is compassionate and free of blame anger, etc.). Then I try to condense the lesson I can learn from them, as they usually have another perspective that we haven't considered. Thanks Ariel, that means a lot, looking forward to seeing your new blog.

Alex, yeah it’s very intuitive to tell someone what to do, even though I became aware of this, I still need to practice compassion constantly until I live it automatically.

Lauxa, I appreciate the kind words on the design :)
Hey Steve, glad you stopped by.

Whatup tuplad, good to have ya back. Listening is a great skill to have, it really puts a lot of the power back into your hands.

Stefan, it’s good to hear you liked it.

Bart, Yes I had some very similar experiences giving people ‘help.’ With guys like us who are always out to learn and grow, it’s very easy to think that others are the same way.

As for how to handle other people when they are giving you advice with that negative energy, I usually try to interrupt their state or pattern first, then have a conversation.

I focus on maintaining my state, then helping them realize the state they are bringing to the conversation, (in a tone that is compassionate and free of blame anger, etc.). Then I try to condense the lesson I can learn from them, as they usually have another perspective that we haven’t considered.

]]> By: Stefan http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-2215 Stefan Tue, 05 Feb 2008 02:27:37 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-2215 Nice! Excellent article. Nice! Excellent article.

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