Comments on: How to Give Advice to Others http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/ Practical Spiritual Wisdom for Men Tue, 17 Jan 2012 23:06:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kevin Peterson http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/comment-page-1/#comment-38329 kevin Peterson Wed, 13 Jul 2011 20:15:41 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-38329 This is such great advice. I too have switched to giving an example rather than trying to tell people what to do..for the most part!! It's still a work in progress as I learn this new approach. Thanks for the great post This is such great advice. I too have switched to giving an example rather than trying to tell people what to do..for the most part!! It’s still a work in progress as I learn this new approach.
Thanks for the great post

]]> By: Glennda http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/comment-page-1/#comment-38024 Glennda Fri, 03 Jun 2011 07:17:37 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-38024 Well laid. I can't accept the fact that people love me only because I'm a handicap. What if I'm not? Would they still accept me? No wonder why disabled person doesn't want to accept sympathy from others. Well laid. I can’t accept the fact that people love me only because I’m a handicap. What if I’m not? Would they still accept me? No wonder why disabled person doesn’t want to accept sympathy from others.

]]> By: Wendy http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/comment-page-1/#comment-37975 Wendy Fri, 27 May 2011 22:07:18 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-37975 Love this, this is so true. I have had numerous problems with my sister and I know now that it's because I judge her so much when I give her advice. This is like a light switch turned on for me, cos I give advice with negative vibes a lot! I can learn from this. Love this, this is so true. I have had numerous problems with my sister and I know now that it’s because I judge her so much when I give her advice. This is like a light switch turned on for me, cos I give advice with negative vibes a lot! I can learn from this.

]]> By: Thomas http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/comment-page-1/#comment-37746 Thomas Wed, 27 Apr 2011 22:08:43 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-37746 Exactly. It is in the way we give our advice that is the key. No matter how right or correct your advice if you do not include compassion and sympathy they'll just end up on deaf ears. Thomas M. <a href="http://www.womensplussizedresses.info/" rel="nofollow">womensplussizedresses</a> Exactly. It is in the way we give our advice that is the key. No matter how right or correct your advice if you do not include compassion and sympathy they’ll just end up on deaf ears.

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]]> By: Tim l Groom Speeches http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/comment-page-1/#comment-37721 Tim l Groom Speeches Thu, 21 Apr 2011 19:40:37 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-37721 This was a wonderful article. I have to add your site to my favorites. thanks Tim This was a wonderful article. I have to add your site to my favorites.

thanks
Tim

]]> By: Ryan http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/comment-page-1/#comment-37559 Ryan Tue, 15 Mar 2011 01:17:04 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-37559 Hi Nd, Thanks for the good words. You're right about the compassion, that is the big one that you gotta have otherwise the advice given will often backfire. There is a place for love coming through in the form of truth, which can be very strong and direct. The key evidence of whether it is Truth or just your own projections is what happens afterwards. If you feel guilty for coming on too strongly, and they secretly resent you, then you were projecting all your emotional baggage onto them and trying to get them to change. On the other hand, if you speak from the perspective of "we are both on the same side, it's just this fear/anger/grief that is mucking things up so let's fight it together" then you can be strong but the other person will appreciate it afterwards, your relationship will improve, and mutual respect will grow. When you are aligned with your own center, have an open heart, and have deep compassion for the person you are interacting with, you can be direct and powerful and really help them grow. It's similar to surgery...your cutting can heal them or hurt them, depending on your precision. Hi Nd,

Thanks for the good words. You’re right about the compassion, that is the big one that you gotta have otherwise the advice given will often backfire.

There is a place for love coming through in the form of truth, which can be very strong and direct. The key evidence of whether it is Truth or just your own projections is what happens afterwards. If you feel guilty for coming on too strongly, and they secretly resent you, then you were projecting all your emotional baggage onto them and trying to get them to change.

On the other hand, if you speak from the perspective of “we are both on the same side, it’s just this fear/anger/grief that is mucking things up so let’s fight it together” then you can be strong but the other person will appreciate it afterwards, your relationship will improve, and mutual respect will grow.

When you are aligned with your own center, have an open heart, and have deep compassion for the person you are interacting with, you can be direct and powerful and really help them grow. It’s similar to surgery…your cutting can heal them or hurt them, depending on your precision.

]]> By: Nd http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/comment-page-1/#comment-37498 Nd Thu, 10 Feb 2011 16:15:56 +0000 http://www.yangtown.com/spirituality/how-to-give-advice-to-others/#comment-37498 I'm immensely grateful to you for sharing this article. Very useful in marriage and other relationships. Would I be right to say that one should refrain from giving advice if it cannot be done with love and compassion? I’m immensely grateful to you for sharing this article. Very useful in marriage and other relationships. Would I be right to say that one should refrain from giving advice if it cannot be done with love and compassion?

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