Great point about all the various aspects of pick up and how some are more long term and other are just temporary. You mentioned habits and choosing what to keep; this is exactly what I mean by “integrating” which is a natural part of personal evolution. I think the best way pickup can serve us is if it helps us move Through it so we get to the point where we don’t need to consciously “use” it.

This way we can keep only the parts that resonant with our authentic self. The trap that I saw in some types of pickup is that one focuses too much on building a persona as a means of achieving a desire that is born out of lack. The easiest way to tell what is right for you is if you are constantly becoming happier and life is becoming more flowing.

Frank that’s a good point about a higher truth recontextualizing everything so that pickup is not needed. Its like you said, some guys learning pickup see other guys being successful so they mirror what they are doing in an effort to get the same results. The error that they often don’t realize until later is that their energy system is literally built in a way that is often totally different than that other guy and that doing what works for him could drain their energy and happiness. If one really enjoys pickup and can bring in the energy of the heart (or the right brain), they can find themselves through the process.

Either way, its not a race or a contest. Everyone will find what works for them. For me, Ive just found the most peace with letting go of almost all of it, though it definitely did serve me in the process.

Even Ben here thinks that the sexual abundance mindset is a part of pickup. But it’s more like a higher universal truth recontextualizes all that’s beneath it. When you are enough, not needy etc, who the hell needs pickup?

I think guys have a hard time imagining that they are able to grow beyond a desire and that it’s just a stepping stone to get in touch with oneself and not an end.

“When one starts to come into the full power of their being, they will understand that none of that outer technique-based stuff is needed.

They attract women into their life through their energy, as a conscious reflection of their inner world.

When one feels this inner power, there is zero pull toward expending any time or energy to gathering pickup material because it becomes completely irrelevant.

If you think about what power is, it’s being able to do the most with the least amount of effort”

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Pickup is comprised of a number of components. A large part of pickup is the practice, the habit, the skill. Another part is the social awareness. Another part is the model of human nature. Another part is the belief system. Another part is the goal of attracting more and more beautiful women. Another is the mindset of sexual abundance.

You should consciously choose which areas to keep, and which areas to discard. I would argue that even if you’ve “given up” pickup, you still incorporate many parts into your being, into your existence. Have you chosen to do so, or is a habit?