Have you ever experienced crippling fear? Perhaps it made it hard for you to speak, move or otherwise function. You logically understood there was nothing to fear, yet it seemed like your fear took control of your body and there was nothing you could do to stop it.
Others may tell you to just push through it, and you want to, yet that feeling of fear can be so powerful that you are overwhelmed. It's like the fear is rooted deep inside you and there is little you can do to overcome it.
In some cases, fear may dictate a person's lifestyle, making their life much harder than it has to be (such as in the case of the fear of flying or the fear of approaching women).
When I was younger I had a fear of public speaking. My palms and forehead would get sweaty, my stomach tense and nervous, my throat dry, my voice would waiver; it was not fun. I just kept pushing through and little by little I gained the confidence to become a very good public speaker. It took years of practice to overcome that fear.
If I had used EFT, I could have overcome that fear in days or even minutes.
EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. It is a revolutionary technique of tapping on various acupuncture points in order to balance your body's energy. The theory behind EFT states that "The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system." So by balancing your body through tapping, you can clear out any negative emotions stored deep within you.
Watch this introduction video about the effectiveness of EFT and some of the incredible success stories, then read my guide on EFT below.
The acupuncture points are located along your meridians, which are your body's energy pathways. By tapping on the various points, your meridians balance themselves out which allow for the energy to flow properly. Once the disruption is removed, the negative emotion is also removed.
This is how negative emotions are caused:
- You think of a distressing memory or experience a specific situation.
- This triggers a disruption in your body's energy system.
- You feel a negative emotion (fear, sadness, anger, etc).
Through the use of EFT, you treat #2 (the disruption), which prevents experience #3 (the negative emotion). This goes against conventional psychotherapy which attempts to treat #1 by addressing either the memory or the situation in the hopes that it will stop the negative emotions from happening.
So if you have an extreme fear of flying, people may explain to you all the safety precautions and statistics of airplanes, yet you still feel the fear. It's not until you clear out your energy system that your fear goes away. It can take many years of retraining your body using the traditional methods or a few minutes with EFT.
So how do you perform EFT?
There are four steps to EFT. Once they are memorized, a full run through can be completed in about 1 minute.
- The Setup
- The Basic Recipe
- The 9 Gamut Procedure
- The Basic Recipe again
The setup is used to properly orient your body's energy system for healing. Sometimes we experience Polarity Reversal, which is like a self-sabotage effect that the ego creates with problems it doesn't know how to handle properly. Through the use of the setup, we temporarily remove this polarity reversal long enough for EFT to fix the disruption. This step is crucial to success because, in some cases, the polarity reversal is so strong that nothing will work unless the setup is done first.
To do the setup, simply rub your lymph area on either side of your chest about 2 inches above your nipple. This is known as the Sore Spot. You will know you hit the right area when you feel a very sensitive twinge. (You may alternatively tap the karate chop point instead of this sore spot).
While you are rubbing, you say an affirmation statement three times. "Even though I have this ________, I deeply and completely accept myself." In the blank, you fill in the fear or problem you are experiencing.
So for the fear of flying you would say, "Even though I have this fear of flying, I deeply and completely accept myself." Say this three times while rubbing the sore spot and you've completed The Setup.
The sequence is the set of acupuncture points which you tap to balance your energy system. Simply tap each point about 7 times with your index and middle finger. You can use either hand, though your dominant hand is preferable.
The list of points is as follows:
- Eyebrow – Located just above the nose where the eyebrow starts, slightly to the side.
- Corner of the Eye – Located on the bone alongside the corner of the eye.
- Under the Eye – Located an inch under the pupil.
- Under the Nose – Located in the area between your nose and upper lip.
- Under the Mouth – Located below your bottom lip and above your chin.
- Collar Bone – Located where your collarbone and first rib meet. To find it, locate the U shaped indentation at the top at the bottom of your throat (where a man knots his tie), then move down 1 inch and to the side 1 inch.
- Under the Arm – Located about 4 inches below the armpit.
- Under the Nipple – Located about 1 inch below the nipple.
- Fingers – Located on the outside tip of each finger where the nail and the skin meet.
- Karate Chop – Located on the fleshy, outside part of the hand between the top of the wrist and the bottom of the pinkie finger.
Tap all points in any order about seven times each (The under the nipple point can be skipped for ladies in social situations). You can use either the right or left side for any of the points.
Each time you tap you say a reminder phrase. The reminder phrase is a shortened version of the Setup affirmation. For the example we used above, the reminder phrase is simply, "fear of flying." So in this case we would simply say "fear of flying" once for each point during the tapping. This reminds the body to fix it's energy system for that specific fear or issue.
The 9 Gamut Procedure
The 9 Gamut Procedure is used to engage various parts of the brain while tapping on the Gamut Point. The point is located on the back side of either hand between the knuckles of the ring finger and the pinkie and about an 1/2 inch back (toward the wrist).
Simply tapping the Gamut Point by itself can be very effective in reducing fear, so when it's combined in this procedure, it's even more powerful.
To perform the 9 Gamut Procedure, simply tap the Gamut Point WHILE performing these 9 steps:
- Close your eyes
- Open your eyes
- Look hard down right (don't move your head)
- Look hard down left (don't move your head)
- Roll your eyes in a clockwise circle (imagine your nose is the center of a clock and you are looking at each of the numbers, without moving your head)
- Roll your eyes in a counter-clockwise circle (without moving your head)
- Hum 2 seconds of a song such as "Happy birthday to you"
- Count rapidly from 1 to 5 out loud
- Hum 2 seconds of the song again
After the 9 Gamut procedure, simply do the entire sequence again (while saying the reminder phrase for each point).
Sometimes after doing one round of EFT, the fear or negative emotion will be gone forever. Other times you may need to do multiple rounds of EFT for it to subside. Also, there may be various "aspects" that you need to get through before negative emotion is completely gone.
For example, a person who is afraid of flying may need to do multiple rounds of EFT like this:
The first round they can say "Even though I have this fear of flying, I deeply and completely accept myself" for the setup, then do the sequence with the reminder phrase "fear of flying," then do the gamut, then the sequence again with the same reminder phrase.
The second round they may do the exact same thing except change the phrase to fear of takeoff. For the third round, they can change it to fear of heights, or fear of tight spaces and so on. (They may even use a past traumatic event such as "Even though I was in a very scary plane ride, I deeply and completely accept myself").
Many times our emotions get entangled with each other and what seems like a simple fear of flying could actually be many fears that are triggered all at once. By doing rounds of EFT on each aspect, you become closer and closer to completely overcoming that fear.
I have personally used EFT hundreds of times on many things. I've used it before I gave business presentations, before I played in sports, and even when I was feeling nervous about surfing in big waves.
The results are so subtle and instantaneous that I often look back and think "Was I really afraid of that, no way." It's like I can't even relate to being afraid anymore.
EFT can also be used for
- chronic illness
- weight loss
- and anything you can think of
Think of something that you're afraid of or that you feel uneasy about and use EFT on it right now.
Be sure to download the Free EFT Manual from http://www.EmoFree.com