How to Stop Life From Passing You By
Monday, December 24th, 2007
Do you ever feel like your life is slipping through your fingers or that time is passing you by and you are powerless to stop it?
I remember looking forward to special events or milestones in my life for many weeks, months or years. "I just can't wait until this happens," I would tell myself as I'd get lost into my dreams of being there in the future.
When the event finally happened, I felt like it went too fast as if I didn't get to savor it long enough or that it didn't fulfill me as much as I hoped.
The future does not exist, nor does the past. The only thing that's real is NOW, this very moment. Everything else is an illusion. As soon as you start thinking about the past, you are living in your memories. As soon as you start imagining your future, you are living in your dreams.
Both only exist in your mind.
I see only two ways to experience life at any given moment:
1. Living in the mind.
2. Living in the experience.
The mind is a tool for you to use to interpret your life, decide what you like and what you dislike, and create your own reality. It is a necessary part of this existence, though most people use it more then they need to.
For example, when I am going to surf, I usually check the surf report online to see if the waves are breaking and at which beach. I use my mind to look up the various reports and then decide on a beach and go. Once I get to the beach, I surf for a few hours and enjoy the fresh air, bright sun, crashing waves, the sand underfoot; the whole experience.
The total time to look up the surf report is 5 minutes. Investing that small amount of time enhances my experience of 3 hours surfing dramatically because it allows me to find the best waves.
But what if instead of spending 5 minutes on the report, I spent 3 hours researching the waves by analyzing each surf report & weather report in detail, checking various sources, calling friends, checking past charts and historic ocean swells, etc. After which, I finally drove out to the one beach that my research specified was the best and found out my research was spot on!
So I surfed for a total of 5 minutes, since that was all the time I had left.
That sounds ridiculous but it is the exact same thing many of us do with our own life. I know I've done it. Sure the mind is important and a little bit of research and analyzing is important but it's not everything. In fact, it's not even close.
The secret to enjoying life and grabbing time by the balls and saying "not so fast" is to become aware, to become present. When you are about to eat, don't think about what's going on in the news, or what people you have to call, or what projects you want to work on, just eat. Enjoy the food, observe the texture, breathe in the smell, appreciate the quality, savor the flavor.
Play with your food. Our parents had it wrong this whole time.
Take any activity like walking around the park, having a drink with an old friend, or your favorite exercise and see if you can observe and experience everything.
See if you can empty your mind completely and merge with the other person while you are talking with them. Allow their every movement, word, and expression to soak into your perception. It will amaze you. You don't need to read all these body language books, just be aware.
It's tough at first and I am no master yet, but keep at it. When you've experienced an event so fully with all your senses, that feeling of life "passing you by" will be gone and will be replaced by warmth and appreciation for life and all of existence.
When you are living in this experience on a constant basis, you open up the doors to abundance and true happiness.
Give it a try and share your experience with us in the comment section if you like.
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Experiencing Energy Healing
Saturday, December 8th, 2007Are you familiar with Reiki? What about chakras? Perhaps you're a bit hesitant about whether they are real methods of healing or just a placebo effect that the mind creates. This experience may shed some light on the effectiveness of energy healing.
The past month I attended a spiritual fair where many energy healers, massage therapists, medical intuitives and psychics gathered to offer their services at the Learning Light Foundation in Anaheim California.
At the time, I thought it would be fun to check out. Little did I know the powerful energetic changes that were about to take place within me.
I arrived at the location to find a small recreation church-like building in the immigrant side of town. As I walk to the door, a kind old man greets me and asks for the $2 admission fee. I give him the money and, with his shaking hands and warm smile, he places in a steel collection box.
I walk through a narrow hallway and into a big room with about 25 psychics, healers, and therapists each about 3 feet away from each other with a small table and an empty chair in front of them or a client. Alongside the walls of the room are vendors selling crystals, books, stones, and herbal healing products.
I walk over to a poster board on the wall and see photos and information on each of the healers and therapists. I briefly scan the descriptions and photos until I find this listing:
"Yogi Yagnesh ShantiOm: Accomplished musician, poet, craftsman, yogi and a healer. He has helped many people by teaching Yoga, spiritual consoling, and by his healing hands. He combines Pranic Healing, with Tibetan Reiki and Special healing prayers & Mantras. He has over 15 years experience as a spiritual healer."
The cost is $45 for a 30 minute healing session. I walk over to the lady receptionist and tell her I would like a session with this healer. Just as I am paying her, the healer walks over to her and says "So, anyone come in for me?" She replies, "You're just in time, he wants a session with you." We both chuckle and he says jokingly "See, I'm psychic."
We walk upstairs to a large room with a massage table. He asks me to take off my shoes and lay with my back on the table and my eyes closed. He proceeds to check my chakras with a crystal pendulum and jokes that "its a good thing I came in" (I had been doing a lot of partying around this time which probably messed up my chakras).
As I lay with my eyes closed, I could feel him waving his hands and arms a few feet away from my body, as if he was fluffing my aura. My ego kept blurting out thoughts like "This is total crap, he isn't doing anything, this is stupid." I kept quieting my mind and saying to myself, "I am open to this healing and allow it to take place."
Within a few minutes of that, he moves his hands towards my neck and I feel a powerful heat coming towards me as he lay his hands on the back of my head in a triangular position, as if propping it up with his hands. He continues to place his hands there for a few minutes.
He proceeded to lay his hands in a different place and position for each chakra. He then asks me to turn around so I am laying on my stomach. He proceeds to lay his hands the same way on the back of each chakra. Each time it just felt like he was laying his warm hands on me and nothing special was happening. It was kind of weird but I kept an open mind.
Then suddenly, as he was working on the back on the Solar Plexus and later, on Sacral chakra, I felt a sharp pain travel a few inches up into my heart and within 3 or 4 seconds dissipate into nothingness. These two twinges of pain were the only things I felt the entire 30 minutes.
He finished up with another aura fluff and then I was done. He tells me, "Don't take a shower until tomorrow, that way you keep the energy in you. Also, you may feel some changes. Like sudden crying, happiness, or a feeling of letting go."
That day I felt good and although I didn't take a shower, I did go out to a club and had about 5 or 6 beers. The next day I felt a bit hungover but had a little more awareness.
The real change came two days later, Monday. I woke up excited to be alive and to start working. I felt happier and calmer for no particular reason. I also felt like I had just had a big workout 2 days prior: my muscles were sore, like I was recuperating but rebuilding strength. I had almost forgot that I went to a healer, until I started to connect the dots.
A month later, I went to see him again for another healing session. He tells me "You will be more receptive to the energy this time." I lay down and go through the whole routine, except this time it feels different.
Each time he lays his hands on me, instead of feeling nothing but a little warmness, it feels like his hands are charged with warm energy and are sending a stream of tingling sensations into my body. I enjoy the feeling and relax. This time, the mental chatter of skepticism does not come up at all.
I thank him and go home. That night I did not shower but again drank a few beers and partied. The next day, however, was anything BUT normal. The entire day I felt like I was lighter, almost like I was floating just a little. I wrote in my journal about some realizations about myself and life. I accepted myself on a whole new level and came to terms with my own imperfections (which led to this post).
I poured my heart out as I wrote and felt a tremendous letting go. Afterward, my entire chest and most of my body felt a powerful, almost electric charge, like a pervasive tingling. It was like my heart was radiating energy and morphing or healing itself on new levels. It was indescribable, like nothing I have ever felt before. I literally felt like I had someone else's heart in my body.
The changes became more apparent as I continued with my daily life. Things that worried me or bothered me seemed trivial. I enjoyed just being with my friends, just spending time with them eating or talking. When I went out to clubs I playfully flirted with girls with no consideration for what could go wrong.
My female friends that I haven't called in a while started calling me non-stop to go out and party. I started making more jokes about everything with everyone, I was funny again. I enjoyed every part of life that I had somehow forgot before. My eyes and heart became open to all the love around me that I had been resisting all along.
I realized that living in the heart means enjoying life, not analyzing it. In the past, as soon I would start to analyze a situation and try to "figure out" another person, I was operating out of the ego. When I just let go of the need to analyze and interpret, I allow myself to enjoy everyone and everything without judgment. That is living from the heart.
I did chakra meditations to keep the feeling for as long as possible. It slowly drifted away to some extent, but my heart remained at a level of consciousness much higher than before. I had been working on my own chakras for a long time, which I believe allowed me to get so much benefit from the healings in such short time.
My goal now is to develop a lifestyle that supports this heart consciousness; and utilizing regular energy work with myself and healers is now a part of that.
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Attention is Your Spiritual Currency
Tuesday, October 23rd, 2007We are all familiar with using money to exchange goods and services. We utilize our specialized skills and knowledge to create value for others and then are compensated for it in the form of Dollars, Euros, and so on. We use currency to enrich the quality of our life by purchasing things that we want and making profitable investments.
In the non-physical world, things behave in a similar way. Think of your thoughts as if they were currency. Every thought that you have is a purchase, an investment.
What investments are you making every day? Every morning when you look at yourself in the mirror, what parts of yourself are you spiritually financing? Every time you read the newspaper, watch TV, or speak with others, what parts of the world are you spiritually financing?
Every time you put your attention onto something that you really want, you are spiritually financing it, even if it doesn't yet exist. When you've financed it with enough positive emotion, desire, and energy (often in the form of action), it will eventually be paid off and will then manifest into your life.
This is how you communicate with the universe. You invest your attention, your energy, and the universe will manifest your investment.
We truly are the creators of our universe.
Most people experience problems when they notice their investments haven't yet manifested, and they begin to lose hope. They lose the positive emotion that was driving the investment, and they begin to focus on the lack that they are experiencing rather then what they want.
This is where you can use gratitude and self-acceptance as your secret weapons for rapidly speeding up manifestation and inoculating yourself against the possibility of losing hope.
Gratitude is an amazing thing. It allows you to appreciate everything that you already have which creates powerful positive emotions inside you. These positive emotions are the driving force behind your manifestations. They open the floodgates to receiving more from the universe.
Many people bounce around spiritually; first they are excited about manifesting and focus on what they want, then they start to lose hope and focus on the lack of it. This up and down emotional roller coaster sends mixed signals to the universe and slows or stops manifestation.
If they practice gratitude, they bounce from being excited and happy about what they want, to being appreciative and grateful for what they have. One message communicates to the universe, "This is what I want, send it to me", while the other one communicates, "I appreciate and take care of what I already have." Both support your manifestation.
Imagine that you are a parent and your kid has a pet dog that he doesn't feed properly and often ignores. If he says to you, "I want another dog and I know that I haven't been taking care of this one but when I get a second one I promise I will change." Do you think you would get him another dog? No way! He has to be able to handle one before he can even think about getting two.
The universe is the same way. Through gratitude you are communicating to the universe, "I can be trusted with more, send away."
Self-Acceptance is basically gratitude focused on yourself. When you accept yourself just the way you are, you are releasing the barriers to manifestation. It removes the neediness from your emotions. Sometimes people put conditions on their happiness such as, "I'll be happy when I lose 10 pounds," or "I'll love myself once I get a girlfriend." This tells the universe, "I am not happy with myself now."
People often bounce around spiritually here as well; first they will be excited about manifesting better health, but then they will look at themselves right now and are reminded of their sickness and lose hope. This also sends mixed signals to the universe.
By accepting yourself with all your imperfections, you bounce from being excited about improving yourself, to being grateful for your unique qualities and being happy with yourself exactly as you are at that moment. Both support your manifestation.
How do we cultivate gratitude and self-acceptance? For gratitude, see my previous post on Transforming Frustration into Power. As for self-acceptance, it's probably the hardest for most people and I'm not able to give it all to you in just one paragraph.
For starters you could check out the TAT or EFT and move onto many of the programs in the resources section.
So remember:
What spiritual investments are you making today?
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