About
I'm Ryan Randolph. I'm 25 and live in Los Angeles, California. I've created this blog to be a resource for men as they face life's challenges and grow spirituality.
Frankly, I don't know how I ended up here, writing a spiritual blog for men. Had you told me a few years ago that this is what I'd be doing, I would have laughed or shrugged it off as unlikely.
Yet somehow, that ever present and subtle voice inside keeps nudging me along this path. Start a blog…join the Ideagasms forum…work with this energy healer…write this ebook….talk to this spiritual teacher…and so on.
Hundreds of small, and seemingly unimportant, decisions culminating into a powerful momentous shift, so much so that I didn't even realize how far I had come until I looked back.
As I learned to surrender more and more to this inner guidance, I began to realize my purpose in all of it.
I have come to be of service; to utilize my unique gifts of a clear writing style along with a birds eye view perspective and a knack for blending many different ideas into one big cohesive theory.
Some heal others with their hands; others with their presence.
I intend to heal with my words; to re-contextualize the challenges men face daily in such a way that a healing takes place within the mind.
In this way, they may more easily access the truth within their own spirit, and allow it to trickle down to every aspect of their life; empowering their thought, word, and action.
Why the name Yang Town?
Yang comes from Yin/Yang, as understood in Chinese Taoism.
Yin and yang is a simple way to describe two opposing forces that make up everything that exists. Yang is expansive, hot, light, fire and so on, whereas yin is contractive, cool, dark, and water.
In the context of relationships yang is the leader, masculine, and purpose driven whereas yin is the follower, feminine, and full of loving radiance. Every person has both yin (feminine) and yang (masculine) within them, yet they have only one core energy which is like their “default” state.
Most women are born with feminine core and most men are born with a masculine core. When a man is in his masculine state his energy lows through him easily and naturally. If he decides to summon yin energy, for whatever reason, he can do so but will feel drained by it.
The culture we live in today is mostly a yin culture. Comforts such as tv, videogames, beer, and the ability to easily buy well prepared food and drive anywhere in minutes are all yin energy based.
In the old days, men faced challenges such as going off to war to battle enemies, constant starvation or disease, and dealing with corrupt rulers. Men needed to be big, strong, and fearless.
In today's information age of knowledge workers and all the comforts of technology, it seems like these type of men are no longer needed. The challenges men face today have transformed in such a way that most guys don't even see them as such.
The strength they need is no longer an outer-physical one, but rather something else….
What's needed?
A new paradigm for what it means to be a man. What I describe as the Yang Man.
A Yang Man has integrated both his yin side (feminine) and his yang side (masculine), yet he lives primarily in his masculine because this state relaxes him and energizes him.
He leads physically, mentally, and emotionally.
He answers to an inner code of honor: his standards of integrity. His life's purpose is directed, whole-heartedly, by his mission. All else is secondary.
His heart is open wide, unwaveringly connected to universal energy. His love for others mirrors his own high self-love. His emotional state is rooted like an oak tree; unresponsive to others' victim hood or outbursts.
He leads by the power of example, rather than the force of ego. He knows what one has pales in comparison to who one is.
So this blog is like a temple for those men who set off on the path of becoming Yang Men to come to learn, discuss, and discover.
The first step of this journey is to become grounded and get a handle on one's own sexual drives and desires; since this is the foundation for the higher levels of integrity, power, and love.
So I've created a free eBook summarizing the most powerful ideas and techniques that I've learned from studying Chinese Taoism, Spirituality, and the Dating & Seduction community.
Read more here: How to Revive Your Sex Drive using The Deer Exercise
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Interested in the Creation of Yang Town? View the Making of Video:
August 21st, 2006 at 4:57 pm
hey ryan!
I found your blog through the comment you posted on my site and I must
say that I liked you blog, very interessting to read your thoughts.. anyways
wanna link exchange? if you do, mail me.. / psyneh
December 3rd, 2007 at 9:37 pm
Hey Ryan,
I just wanted to express how impressed and surprised I am about your website. But don’t worry its a good thing! I have yet to look at everything and I am curious to continue exploring…
Nice to meet you and have a great week!:)
December 5th, 2007 at 4:54 pm
Hi Kate, thanks for kind words and for stopping by. It’s always good to see fellow stumblers here. Take care
December 10th, 2007 at 11:47 pm
Nicely done young man… I’m glad to have found a kindred spirit.
February 24th, 2008 at 12:33 pm
This is a great site and will inspire many men on their own journeys. Keep up the great work. If you have a moment check out Feng Shui at my site.
www.ArtOfPlacement.com
March 28th, 2008 at 5:30 am
Wow! congratulations! This is really awesome and inspiring. I am so touched and moved by the introduction page of yourself, the journey of transformation and in search of the higher self. Awesome! do continue with the great sharing.
May 14th, 2008 at 1:43 am
I feel you Ryan. I also live in L.A., and have read DeAngelo’s ebooks and found them insightful, but I’ve never actually been able to use his methods with a straight face.
Being a little older than you (late ’30’s) and still not having found “the one”, all I can say is that the world changed more for me between 25 and 32 than it did at any other time in my life. I also had a gorgeous high-maintenance girlfriend at age 27 (she was 23) and I had to deal with trying to build a relationship with a person who CONSTANTLY was getting hit on, her vanity reinforced every day.
Girls at this age often DO NOT like boys the most. What they like most is FUN- though many guys erroneously think girls mainly want money and nice cars (both just tools that enable fun). I have found that here in LA, the Pretty Young Thing that suddenly finds herself approaching 30 often starts shedding the bratty girl behavior as they start to fear getting too old before getting married and they realize there are always younger, prettier girls coming up behind them. Meanwhile, guys don’t start to come into their own until they close in on age 30. So right when a guy starts to feel better, feel more mastery, becoming more interesting to opposite sex, the desperate-to-get-married girls of his age range are now chasing him the way he chased them 8 years earlier.
Allow another five years to go by then revisit your relationship. You’ll see it in a less-hurtful light. Just my take
May 21st, 2008 at 2:27 pm
Yeah man, that is sooo true. I am already feeling it as my female friends are starting to wake up and realize time is no longer as friendly. You’ll probably notice I redid the about section, as I’ve been meaning to for a while now. I’ve realized the real pain wasn’t in the relationship as much as it was in getting stuck in the ego and the negative thought patterns. Anyway, thanks for the good words.
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:15 pm
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August 20th, 2008 at 6:43 pm
I love this blog man. I love it how you talk about Yang men when my name is Yang hahahahaha